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If there is something that parents want, it is their sons and daughters to achieve the happiness and self-fulfillment that we all somehow seek. But is it really possible to ‘project’ outcomes like these from an early age? No doubt certain ideas and habits can be conveyed to kids regardless of religion, race, or beliefs. That will help them reach that level of happiness and self-fulfillment, and most importantly, help them feel safe in a world that often seems contradictory, meaningless, and perhaps painful. The one powerful tool that can accompany them in their adventure to discover and realize their deepest and innermost dreams is called MEDITATION.
The first thing you need to know as parents is that meditation is not something, which requires one to remain stationary. Logically, if it were so, no meditation technique would ever work with kids, as they are restless, their attention shifts very quickly from one thing to another, and it is almost inappropriate to oblige children to sit still, as this will certainly deny their freshness, spontaneity, and creativity.
Active meditation is aimed to simply guide the kids through reflection. After the age of 6 or 7, any child could benefit from this meditation, which aims to develop their ability to monitor themselves and to mature naturally (through their consciousness and reflection) in their emotions.
Step one: Every time you are about to scorn or criticize your child because of something you perceive as incorrect, try instead to lead the conversation into a discussion. Without doubt, we all learn much better when we are ”Aware” rather than someone telling us that this was a “bad” thing to do. We should keep in mind that kids learn as we do – through experience -they don’t have a ‘good’ or a ‘bad’ intention when they do things. However, children do feel bad or guilty if you make them believe that what they do is ‘bad’ - over time this will shape the idea that there is something ‘wrong’ and ‘bad’ within them. This may not surface for a long time, but the more the child is condemned and being told that he or she is “evil”, the more they will feel insecure and sooner or later, they will rebel.
Step two: Targeting issues: without, doubt the best way a child can learn and appreciate what they do is through guided reflection/meditation. You should have a desire to “show” what is “good and right” and start guiding them with questions like: “What do you think your friend felt when you did that?”.. ” What did you feel?” …”How could you solve the issue between the two of you?”
The answers the kid gives us may then be enriched with our own opinion: “Don’t you think that this hurt? How would you feel if the same thing happened to you?”
Step three: Do not ‘program’ your kid with words: it is important not to ‘enforce’ your opinion, but to participate in this guided reflection practice in a very friendly manner, and most of all avoiding words that define your child as something specific (not placing labels), such as “you are bad”, “you are unjust,” “You’re very messy,” etc. We must remember that through our words, their minds are literally being ‘programmed’, and all we achieve is strengthen the behavior that we don’t like.
These short steps play a large role in forming the future adult. Learning to observe and consider not only what we feel ourselves, but what others feel as well is a necessary condition to better evaluate the situations occurring in our lives. This will help your kid in gaining a much more mature and conscious emotional management, which is equivalent to a fuller and happier life.
Stress, anxiety, fear and other similar emotions are becoming more common among children and young people, as they need to face information and problems that kids from previous generations did not have to face. Today’s children often lack enough attention from their parents, which means that they need to cope with the information and experiences they face every day thought the information they gather from the internet, movies, television, etc.
These emotions can trigger a lot of inner tension, rebellious behavior or uncertainty, which, if continued, can later produce all kinds of conditions such as insomnia, stress, hyperactivity, inattention, poor memory, allergies, etc. The reason for there conditions is that the nervous and immune systems ‘wear out’, being constantly in defense or fear of certain situations. To help the child reduce the stress they face, it would be very beneficial if parents practiced meditation techniques with their kids before bedtime. This will help your little one go to sleep with a sense of calmness and security that will feed their mind during the meditation, enabling them to wake up with new sensations.
No need to spend a lot of time, as long as this time is spent efficiently! So here is another meditation technique for kids, which will also help you reach a deeper level of communication with your child.
Choose a place, where your child feels safe and comfortable – this can be their bed. Before starting the meditation itself, spend some time for reflection – ask the child how their day has been – what has given them joy during the day, and what has disturbed them. Discuss with them what they can do to improve certain situations. This guided reflection will somehow calm down the child’s mind, and then the actual meditation practice can begin.
Choose some type of calm, relaxing music that your kid likes. In this way the child will learn that when listening to this music, their mind will calm down. Music helps a lot when the parent is not confident enough how to guide the meditation – listening to appropriate music will guide the child into an appropriate state of mind. Any type of relaxing instrumental music is appropriate – it can be Beethoven, Mozart or Celtic music.
The guided Meditation should be implemented in a soft voice. Ask your child to close their eyes and take a deep breath. Then ask them to imagine a sphere of light in their favorite color at the height of the frontal lobe (third eye, you can show them by gently pressing on their forehead). Then guide your child’s imagination into seeing how this sphere becomes brighter and bigger, how the light glows and runs through their veins, throughout their whole body. The child can also be touched gently – pass your fingers on their arms, legs, and back, showing them where the light in their imagination should be passing. Then tell them that this light takes away all pressures and pains away from their body and their mind.
Once you do that, tell your child to concentrate all this light back into the sphere, where all their tension and troubles have gone. Tell them to send this sphere far far away into the sky, where it will burst and turn into a pure star.
Then again, ask your child to imagine he or she is wrapped up in pure light, and this light will keep them safe during the whole night. This light-wrap will be their protective shield during the night.
This guided meditation technique for kids is very effective in bringing your child to a calmer, safer place in their mind. You can use your imagination and slightly change the meditation every day, so that the child doesn’t get bored.
A final point is that If your child is very nervous, anxious, or can not sleep, you need to check their diet, which can be high in sugar – this seriously affects the nervous system. Make sure the kid consumes a good amount of of whole grains, fresh fruits and vegetables, freshly squeezed juices and salads – these are all important factors, complementing any meditation technique – be it for adults or for kids.
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